Victims Of Choice

My Abortion Grief Guilt And Shame Is Ending Soon

Our Stories
The letters included are by women who have generously decided to share their thoughts and experiences with you.  Their pain is real, their triumphs hard-won.  We hope these moving stories will be a glorious testament to the life-giving power of faith, hope, and love working in lives once withering in darkness, hopelessness, and despair.

It is our hope that you will be both touched and encouraged by these life experiences which gives witness to the abundant mercy and grace that is poured out by God the Father on those who come to Him with a contrite heart. 

'For I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.'  Jeremiah 29:11

Janice opens her life to you as she reveals how decisions made at a young age lead to a downward spiral  that included marriage, two abortions, and divorce -- all before age 25.  Fortunately, this story has a happy ending, click here to find out.

The shame and pain of abortion seemed to be destroying Brenda - denial helped her to say the right words when praying but denial did not give her confidence that God had really forgiven her, even though she had asked countless times.

Growing up in a physically, sexually, verbally and emotionally abusive home where she was reminded often that she should have been aborted, Peggy thought she knew deep pain.  But, not until she had an abortion did she really know pain.  click here to read more

This letter speaks of the 'life changing experience' in completing the 10-sessions of My Abortion Grief Guilt And Shame Is Ending Soon.  Twenty-five years of guilt and shame has come to an end and a new understanding of what it is to be free.


LG writes about the freedom she found after addressing abortion related hurts, anger, bitterness and shame by going through the 10-sessions of My Abortion Grief Guilt And Shame Is Ending Soon... click here to read her letter.

 

   Often, like this image in the mirror, we feel fragmented, broken, out of focus and unable to see clearly.  We feel rather we most often don't feel and that scares us.
  Sometimes, when we can connect with others who feel or have felt this way we find hope.  Hope that helps us to move on in seeking answers to our unasked questions. 
  Possibly reading these stories will help you make the next step to embracing God's love, mercy, forgiveness and reconciliation.  

  The next step is contacting a trained facilitator to learn more about starting the healing journey called "My Abortion Grief Guilt And Shame IS Ending Soon".  
 

 

An open letter, for all to read, from a mother of a child whose life ended in the womb after only 7 weeks.  Her testimony is a firm conviction of knowing that God Who has begun a good work (of bringing to completion) in her, will complete that work (of perfecting her) until the day of Christ Jesus - when Chris appears, she will be like Him, because she will see Him just as He is.  (Philippians 4:6 and 1 John 3:2)

Abuse of prescription meds, marriage, divorce, depression and anxiety with suicide attempts - Lori struggled with "Why?".  Could all this have anything to do with a forced abortion at age 14?  Read Lori's story to learn the outcome.

"It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.'  I do not agree.  The wounds remain.  In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue, and the pain lessens.  But it is never gone."  Rose Kennedy, wife of Joseph P. Kennedy, JR.

I do not agree with either statement:  I believe, because I have lived it, that when a person lines their beliefs up to the Word of God, it is possible to the pain to be competely gone.  This is not to say the memory of the hurtful event is erased - that cannot happen.  What can happen: connectors can be eliminated reducing the frequency of recalling the memory.
 
Please do not misunderstand - I will be, as long as I live, the mother of my child killed by my choice of abortion, that fact will never change, that part of my history cannot be erased or rewritten.  At one time, the pain of that loss and the ensuing destruction was very real.  Today, the pain of that loss is no more than the scar on my leg left over from a third-degree burn I experienced a year previous.  There simply is no pain.  True, when I see the scar I am reminded of the experience and the months of healing, but today I do not feel the pain.  Neither does the reminder of the event cause me pain - mental or emotional.  It is simply a reminder that one day, when being careless, I brushed against the hot exhaust pipe of my husband's motorcycle parked near my potting bench.

I believe that when we allow the Word of God to renew our mind and we begin to align our thoughts, beliefs, and ultimately actions with His Word we can be completely healed of the wound of abortion and the aftermath; even though a 'scar' will be there to remind us. 

If we view that scar as a reminder of God's mercy, grace and reconciliation how can it cause us pain?  I think, sometimes, we focus on the scar instead of believing God; we condemn ourselves (as though we were god) and allow our minds to be taken captive which allows the enemy of our soul to accuse us.  Then off we go down that road that leads us away from God's truth.  "When we confess our sin, He [God] is just to forgive us our sin and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."  Corrie ten Boom said that God casts our sins into the deepest sea and puts up a 'No Fishing' sign.

If your abortion history is not exactly history - but is causing you pain today, please do not delay in contacting a trained
abortion recovery facilitator to begin your journey to a right belief about Who God is and What God said is Truth!